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Dark Side of Positivity

The Dark Side Of Being Positive


Being positive is supposed to be positive, right? Not always. Sometimes being TOO positive can be negative. However, in order to understand when you are truly pushing the limits, you need to understand your Self in relation to that. You need to be able to discern.

I recently had an encounter with some old friends that was sort of pushed haphazardly. It was my fault for not listening to that little voice within about the timing of it, but the encounter did provide a valuable lesson for me. So perhaps it was meant to happen when it did.

I’m naturally optimistic – I always wish the best for others and see the potential in everybody, but that’s not always a good thing.

Let me explain.

The “dark side” of this trait is that, when interacting with others, that energy can be quite demanding and make others feel less than what they deserve. Automatic defences usually come up in these instances and true, heartfelt communication becomes less likely. For example, if I’m talking to someone who I haven’t seen in a while, and they don’t follow through on the last plan they mentioned, I become concerned. My conditioning tells me that they’re not being the best they can be, but who am I to make such a judgement? I can tell myself, “I can’t wish something for someone if they don’t wish it for themselves.” Although true, it can become a justification mechanism for being “right.” I believe that, in itself, is not right.

When I honestly reviewed all the things mentioned about me in the past, especially when it came to others being in my presence, the recurring theme that stood out was, “George is preachy. I can’t live up to George’s expectations. George puts so much pressure on me.” They’re hard words to hear, because it’s not how I mean to sound, but it’s how it comes off to some people. However, it’s also important to listen closely to the energy behind such statements, in order to discern its truth.

Now, I don’t intentionally make demands on people, but my “lead by example” philosophy puts quite a lot of pressure on some if they are not equipped for such straight-forward action. This has been reflected in the statement, “I’m not like you George.” I could easily tell myself, “Who cares about these people. They’re either with me or against me,” but that is not who I wish to be. If harmony and balance is my aim, then I need to know when to care, and know when not to – essentially, honest discernment.

In learning more about my Self, I start to see how some people can see me as inspirational, while others see me as the complete opposite. This has nothing to do with who I am, but it gives me insight into how I’m doing in relation to that.

There will be those who like the changes taking place, and those who refuse to accept them. An honest look at these things, both internally and externally, go a long way into refining the Self.

So, the next time you encounter a similar situation, be wary of the energy you project, as well as the reactions to that energy, and be sure that it is in line with who you truly wish to be. If it is not, learn from it, ask for forgiveness (if necessary), forgive yourself, and move on. Life is short, but it is also very long.

Author: George

George is the founder of Disciplinism. When he's not being an entrepreneur, he's taking time out to focus on his Inner Journey. He enjoys deep and meaningfuls, exploring new cultures, and martial arts.

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